Is it permissible to serve and eat meat and milk together in the same meal?

Answer From The Annual Reading Schedule - Week 4 Notes For Genesis: Yes (Genesis 18:8). There is a traditional Jewish view that meat and milk must always be separated based upon Exodus 23:19, 34:26, and Deuteronomy 14:21. However, those verses are speaking specifically of milk which is from the Mother of the animal being cooked. This may have been a pagan practice which may be why it was prohibited, but it might also be because the milk of the Mother was intended for that specific animal to grow and thrive, and to take it and then use it to cook the animal in may be considered improper.

No verse in the Torah teaches all milk and meat must be separated, it is very specific which meat and milk must be separated. If it were wrong to eat milk and meat together, then the messengers of Yahweh would have refused. Since we see Avraham (Abraham) is the one who prepared the meal and Yahweh's own messengers eating meat and milk together, it is clear beyond doubt that it is acceptable to eat meat and milk together as long as the milk is not from the Mother of the animal we are eating at that specific meal. We do not need separate utensils for meat and dairy either.

There is no such requirement for separate utensils in the Torah of Yahweh given through Mosheh. However, we should remember the principle in Romans 14:21 and 1 Corinthians 8:13. Although those verses are addressing people eating meat offered to idols, the principle here is to not do something openly in front of someone else that would cause them to stumble. For this reason, if I was for some reason eating in a setting where I knew there were Jewish persons around and I was not sure if they were believers yet in Yahushua, I would not want to purposefully flaunt that I am eating meat and milk together around them lest they confuse that for thinking we believe in disobeying the law of Yahweh.

I may be more discreet in such situations so that they do not misunderstand our intentions or beliefs about obedience to the Torah. Or, if an opportunity arose, I might also explain why I view it as permissible to eat meat and milk together. We would never want to make people think we are against the Torah (Law) of Yahweh in any way because #1) we are not – we believe in following all of the laws completely and fully, and #2) that could cause stumbling for Jews to come to belief in Yahushua; and we do not want to cause stumbling – we want them to come to belief in Yahushua.